How to transition from the baby stage to a toddler.

Ever since Paighton was born I have been her provider, care taker, food source and all the above. I’ve changed her, feed her every 2 hours. Made sure her ouchies felt better and took her everywhere she wanted to go. Life as I knew it was changed forever and the way I parented was completely different. So I decided let me give some future advice!

1. Give them independence.

Nothing is worst than having the ability to do something you never could do before and having someone take it away from you. As a parent I completely understand where your coming from. These are our babies!

It feels like just yesterday I was sitting around just waiting for her to make a new movement. Fast forward to present time and I’m watching her walk around the house getting into everything. I love it!!!! But I realized that the process of growing up requires me to have to let go. To give her independence to explore, fall, get into things because it’s all part of growing up. Will I ever stop being a helicopter parent?! Of course not! I’ll be their with her every step of the way, but I will learn to let her take her steps. Because independence is key to growing up.

2. Accept they are growing up.

This is a hard one for most parents, I think it’s safe to say that my mom still has a hard time with it too. But she’s definitely realized it much more since I had Paighton.

Parents y’all have to realize that the baby stage goes by so fast only to make you want more kids. I feel as if the tantrum stage is due to our own actions. We’re standing in the way of letting our children reach new milestones. Letting them explore who they are and what they can become. My dad once told me that when I was 10 years old, he started to talk to me like an adult. Reason being is because when I started to grow up my dad didn’t want to have to transition from the baby phase to a grown up phase to late. I believe it helped me in the long run.

3. Embrace the screaming!

I know what your thinking dear God no we don’t want our children screaming at all! Well if you noticed yet children will scream whether we want them to or not. We aren’t in control over the way they function. Instead we have to teach them that screaming is only used mwhen you sing a good song in the car or for cheering on mom when she turns that last barrels and she’s hauling home. (Barrel racing)

I’ve personally have experienced the scream session in the grocery store. Paighton wanted a box of cereal, to her understanding it wasn’t going her way. So what did she do ?? The only logical thing she knows how to do was to scream! Everyone thinks that when their child starts to scream they are “being bad” but let’s not forget for a second that for as long as they have been in the world when ever they would cry their needs were met. They can’t Decipher whether a need is a need or a want. All she knows is that, that box of cereal is a “need” because she wants it and since we aren’t giving it to her she has to scream. Babies at this age in life are learning to be independence but they are still dependent on us in a lot of ways they have no idea about. So embrace the screaming, turn it into something positive instead of walking away from them or getting embarrassed in public. This is your child who is learning to become completely dependent on themselves.

Finally:

This transition stage for any parent can be tiring and at times you have no idea what your doing. My brother-in-law always likes to tell me

“Carm your so good at pretending”

and he’s 100 percent right! I have no idea what I’m doing. Not because of my age but because no one at any age knows what they are doing when it comes to raising a child. Everyone just goes with the motions and try’s to figure out what is best for them. My advice may not work for you. Neither may it work for me in five months from now. Giving and receiving advice is all apart of the motherhood journey, Which I am so here for.

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Take a step back

You know when they say that once they start crawling walking isn’t too far behind. Well, let me just say they are right on the money because what felt like last week I had a new crawler has now evolved Into a wiggly knee newborn baby horse who wants to take steps with this brand new pair of legs.

My heart was racing, Peyton was endlessly staring and our friend Holly was on the other side of P. Her shaky knees became strong like An oak tree and she then defined her place in this world. One step for moving out of the crawler stage and one more step to making mama cry. Why do I feel as if my pregnancy was years on end and this stage of her life just flew by? I guess it is truly right when they say

“life goes by faster when you are having fun.”

If waking up to change a diaper, getting through the granting of sandpaper on my skin referring to breastfeeding, the first month of Paighton life. Then yes we had lots of it!! Learning to run on no hours of sleep while your sleepy baby naps all day. You know when they say

“Sleep when your baby sleeps”

Obviously had a cook, maid and a personal assistant. Because when Paighton sleeps I try to do as much as I can. Even if it’s watching as many YouTube videos as I can in the hour she’s asleep. I now have to stop and rewind, sit down, press play, get back up. Grab P from the kitchen, sit back down, press play and within 5 seconds I’m stopping the video and having to go chase after her. She knows it too because when she hears me she tends to look behind, laugh and crawl faster.

Who actually knew how fast babies can crawl! Not only that, who knew what you can find when you’re always on the ground. I clean my house, but let’s be honest life gets to you. And sometimes you don’t want to clean which leads paighton to find a small piece of chicken that’s been dried out for ages. I know what your thinking, how do you not see that on the floor when you’re cleaning. Let me tell you ladies and gentlemen paighton likes to hide things under our couch. Everything from toys to piece of chicken we give her at dinner. Which leads us to find it this day. Oh, the joys of having a crawler are brilliant.

I thought that the crawling stage was gonna be a tad bit easier. Oh, boy was that a slap on the knee because well…..it’s by far. She’s everywhere!!! Who knew that she could be in this one-stop than turn and be across the house in another. Thank god we don’t have an upstairs because I would Probably find her just chilling on the roof, and putting those two teeth to work on that piece of dehydrated chicken.

Here she stands on her own two feet that God bless me with to create. In this moment I was trying to keep my cool from being excited. Because We were outside of the church service doors because paighton had wanted to be active and not confined to a seat. Our baby has started to walk. On June 9, 2018, I had my baby shower for her a year later she took her first four steps at church and another four steps to our best friend holly aka mama holly that night. Before you know it she’s gonna be running this town.

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