As a little girl growing up thinking my dad was the best of the best (which he is). And never skipping a beat to go hang out with him (which I always did). Growing up with my father was just amazing, let me just start out with that.
Growing up my father He treated me like royalty. So when I started dating I knew exactly how I should be treated and what the expectations were meant to be, because my dad set the bar so high (which he did). I look back now and realize that all the activities I did while growing up such as riding horses my dad was always the only dad in a group meant for moms. My mom was around but she was scared of horses. How ironic because she basically birthed a living, breathing, loving creation meant just for horses (Which was me!!!!) My mom was around but during riding lessons and being around animals that was all my dad and I. My dad taught me a valuable lesson from.
“a countability of equipment”.
To the most important one that has stuck with me for the longest.
“It’s not the dress who makes you, it’s you who makes the dress.”
From picking out my first father and daughter dance dress all the way up to my wedding dress, that Moto stuck with me. Basically growing up my Dad built my confidence so when one day I fall in love with the man of my dreams (which I have). I know my worth and what to expect from my husband.
I believe that a father and daughter relationship is far more important than others make it out to seem. Most people will say a daughter needs her mother,(which is true) to help guide her through womanhood. But there are just things a mom can’t teach a daughter that a father can.
Every girl tends to marry a man like their father. I know most people will think differently but it’s true. You gravitate to how you think or know you should be treated. My father gave me an excellent example of manners and a respectful tone. As for Peyton, he’s just one in a million because not every guy can live up to your dads’ standards. Peyton treats P like a princess even at her age now. It’s never too young to teach your little girls the respect they deserve.
“Daddy issues” is a real thing. Some girls tend to fall into the path of trying to replace the void of not having a father around. Usually, those girls are victims to teen pregnancy where the baby daddy can’t handle having such a huge responsibility at a young age they leave. It’s sad to think about but there are more cases of a single teen mom than there are of teen families. I remember sitting in my peps class and all we talked about was how to get full custody, how to put the dad on child support and how to raise your child as a single parent. I honestly hated that class with a passion because there was no hope for your family to stay together. The teacher never talked about the good parts and how you can work through the hard times to make your family last. All that was said on the subject was,
“Give it a year and see where Y’all end up.”
I thought this class was supposed to be helping you through your situation. But in reality because the teachers’ relationship didn’t work out at a young age she believed to prepare for the worst and that every young dad might fall out and not take his responsibilities. I can’t truly be mad because she was preparing us for the “what if’s” but give us some hope that our family actually does stay together.
Girls who have involved fathers tend to be more confident. They tend to be more sure about there selves and are more confident when it comes to standing out from the crowd. Fathers who are involved do change the way their daughter sees the world. The confidence can be portrayed in being successful at school academically. Or being successful in a sport they play which could lead to a healthier body and a mind. Fathers can impact their daughters in the simplest way even from before they enter this world.
For a fact when I was pregnant with P Every time Peyton would come to see me after work and not say hi to her, my stomach would get tight as if someone was giving me an Indian burn and she would start to kick me in my ribs and do flips as if she was trying to get his attention. All he had to do was simply place his hand on my belly and say “hi”. From the beginning, she had already created a bond with him because he was and still is involved with everything that she does!
A father and daughter relationship is very important for the upbringing of daughters.